Just another day in my life

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Yesterday was an emotional day for me….a day I was dreading. Worst than a dentist appointment for my anxiety levels.

I had a very important meeting with a psychologist regarding my social security disibilty. I sat in the chair next to my amazing supportive fiancé and I was awaiting for him to call me back. I was shaking and my nerves were at an all time high. I didn’t want to talk about my past or present.

Finally my time had come. Bu buh buhhm..mmm!!! My heart was racing as he told me to watch my step down into the short, very short hallway as I said,” I love the way it’s decorated in here.” Not much excitement filled my voice, yet I remained calm, collected & myself smiling. We sat down in two very nice plush seats that were brown leather. Hmm, I thought to myself, this isn’t so bad…..yet.
As I scattered out my thoughts and he asked his 1000 questions, I wasn’t quite sure what to think of it all. He wrote ALOT down about me to submit.

Of course he sympathized with every life story I spoke of such as: adolescent sexual abuse, rapes, sibling bullying, attempted suicide, 48 hour psych ward, women’s shelter and health conditions impairing my life, and the ups or downs of bipolar illness.

He ended our session/exam with,” We’ll I think you definitely have bipolar.”
I’ve been coming to terms with it just in this last year & more so over the last 6 months…….I was first diagnosed when I was 19, two weeks after I had been raped in front of some guys brother! Which made me try to commit Suicide the next day. So I had been dealing with a lot.
I left his office feeling down of course, and unsure of my future…..
I won’t give up fighting for my life though, I may have many more downs than ups right now, but I KNOW I am capable of getting through this time just like every other time. Taking One day at a time is all I can do.

-Nicole ❤

What Is STRESS causing you?????

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By weeding out the negative influences, We allow the positive to flourish.

-Amy Newmark

American Psychological Association says this great information that is A MUST READ below:

A natural reaction (to Stress):

Have you ever found yourself with sweaty hands on a first date or felt your heart pound during a scary movie?
Then you know you can feel stress in both your mind and body.
This automatic response developed in our ancient ancestors as a way to protect them from predators and other threats.
Faced with danger, the body kicks into gear, flooding the body with hormones that elevate your heart rate, increase your blood pressure, boost your energy and prepare you to deal with the problem.
These days, you’re not likely to face the threat of being eaten. But you probably do confront multiple challenges every day, such as meeting deadlines, paying bills and juggling childcare that make your body react the same way.
As a result, your body’s natural alarm system — the “fight or flight” response — may be stuck in the on position. And that can have serious consequences for your health.

Pressure points:

Even short-lived, minor stress can have an impact!
You might get a stomach-ache before you have to give a presentation, for example. More major acute stress, whether caused by a fight with your spouse or an event like an earthquake or terrorist attack, can have an even bigger impact.
Multiple studies have shown that these sudden emotional stresses — especially anger — can trigger heart attacks, arrhythmias and even sudden death.
Although this happens mostly in people who already have heart disease, some people don’t know they have a problem until acute stress causes a heart attack or something worse.

Chronic stress:

When stress starts interfering with your ability to live a normal life for an extended period, it becomes even more dangerous!!
The longer the stress lasts, the worse it is for both your mind and body.
You might feel fatigued, unable to concentrate or irritable for no good reason, for example.
But chronic stress causes wear and tear on your body, too.
Stress can make existing problems worse.
In one study, for example, about half the participants saw improvements in chronic headaches after learning how to stop the stress-producing habit of “catastrophizing,” or constantly thinking negative thoughts about their pain.
Chronic stress may also cause disease, either because of changes in your body or the overeating, smoking and other bad habits people use to cope with stress.
Job strain — high demands coupled with low decision-making latitude — is associated with increased risk of coronary disease, for example.4 Other forms of chronic stress, such as depression and low levels of social support, have also been implicated in increased cardiovascular risk.
And once you’re sick, stress can also make it harder to recover. One analysis of past studies, for instance, suggests that cardiac patients with so-called “Type D” personalities — characterized by chronic distress — face higher risks of bad outcomes.

What you can do

Reducing your stress levels can not only make you feel better right now, but may also protect your health long-term.
In one study, researchers examined the association between “positive affect” — feelings like happiness, joy, contentment and enthusiasm — and the development of coronary heart disease over a decade.
They found that for every one-point increase in positive affect on a five-point scale, the rate of heart disease dropped by 22 percent.
While the study doesn’t prove that increasing positive affect decreases cardiovascular risks, the researchers recommend boosting your positive affect by making a little time for enjoyable activities every day.

Other strategies for reducing stress include:
1. Identify what’s causing stress.

2. Monitor your state of mind throughout the day. If you feel stressed, write down the cause, your thoughts and your mood.

3. Once you know what’s bothering you, develop a plan for addressing it. That might mean setting more reasonable expectations for yourself and others or asking for help with household responsibilities, job assignments or other tasks.

4. List all your commitments, assess your priorities and then eliminate any tasks that are not absolutely essential.

5. Build strong relationships. Relationships can be a source of stress. Research has found that negative, hostile reactions with your spouse cause immediate changes in stress-sensitive hormones, But relationships can also serve as stress buffers.

6. Reach out to family members or close friends and let them know you’re having a tough time. They may be able to offer practical assistance and support, useful ideas or just a fresh perspective as you begin to tackle whatever’s causing your stress.

7. Walk away when you’re angry. Before you react, take time to regroup by counting to 10. Then reconsider.

8. Exercise like Walking or other physical activities can also help you work off steam.
Plus, exercise increases the production of endorphins, your body’s natural mood-booster.

9. Commit to a daily walk or other form of exercise — a small step that can make a big difference in reducing stress levels.
Research shows that activities like yoga and relaxation exercises not only help reduce stress, but also boost immune functioning

10. Rest your mind.
According to APA’s 2012 Stress in America survey, stress keeps more than 40 percent of adults lying awake at night. To help ensure you get the recommended seven or eight hours of shut-eye, cut back on caffeine, remove distractions such as television or computers from your bedroom and go to bed at the same time each night.

11. Get help.
If you continue to feel overwhelmed, consult with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional who can help you learn how to manage stress effectively.
He or she can help you identify situations or behaviors that contribute to your chronic stress and then develop an action plan for changing them.

Web-MD says this about Stress:
How Does Stress Affect Health?

The human body is designed to experience stress and react to it. Stress can be positive, keeping us alert and ready to avoid danger. Stress becomes negative when a person faces continuous challenges without relief or relaxation between challenges. As a result, the person becomes overworked and stress-related tension builds.

Stress that continues without relief can lead to a condition called distress — a negative stress reaction. Distress can lead to physical symptoms including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping. Research suggests that stress also can bring on or worsen certain symptoms or diseases.

(Key points below)

Stress also becomes harmful when people use alcohol, tobacco, or drugs to try to relieve their stress.

Unfortunately, instead of relieving the stress and returning the body to a relaxed state, these substances tend to keep the body in a stressed state and cause more problems.

Consider the following:

1. Forty-three percent of all adults suffer adverse health effects from stress.

2. Seventy-five percent to 90% of all doctor’s office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.
(Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma, arthritis, depression, and anxiety.)

3. The Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) declared stress a hazard of the workplace. Stress costs American industry more than $300 billion annually.

4. The lifetime prevalence of an emotional disorder is more than 50%, often due to chronic, untreated stress reactions.

I hope you Enjoyed reading & that this information was useful for you!!!
-Nicole ❤

Do You Think You’re BEAUTIFUL??

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Dove beauty sketches (Video at very end of this writing 🙂 )

  • “I’ve come a long way on how I see myself, but I think I still

have some way to go.” (4:50)

  • “I have some work to do in myself….” (5:06)

He asks,”Do you think you are more BEAUTIFUL than you say?”

  • She replies with,” Yeah, yeah. yeah.”

(answering truly and honestly from her heart with a touch of sadness.)

  • She says,” Its troubling. I should be more grateful of my natural beauty.”

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A Terrorist they called her

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Imagine being Muslim in America & facing such hatred for acts you were NOT even apart of?! What if you were refused service because of the way you were dressed? What would you do? I would stand my ground like this woman & hopefully others around me would be fighting for justice too!!
This video will move you. It may help you rethink about the way you act? Maybe you can relate to this woman? I was in tears after it got to the 5:00 min & beyond. 😢
We need to treat one another equally! We need to STOP trying to change others simply because they are a different culture or religion!
We need to STOP judging people based on there appearance & only from within there heart!
We need to be better human beings and make America a better place!
No one should EVER FEEL THREATENED OR IN FEAR BY ANYONE IN AMERICA!!!
I won’t give up Hope for our country. And neither should you. 😃-Nicole ❤

This Will BLOW YOUR MIND!

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We ALL have a Dream! This video features Will Smith. I am unsure of all the voices speaking, but I’m asking you to PLEASE WATCH THIS VIDEO!!!!! It will blow your mind! It will knock your socks off! We ALL have thought about giving up in this life by living a mediocre life & not full filling all of our dreams and desires. We ALL have wondered,”What if things were different?”
This POWERFUL video with such strong inspiring voices WILL MOVE YOU SO FAR!!! Give it the full few mins. I PROMISE you it will be worth it!!
-Nicole ❤

Anorexia is NOT a joke

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This is a video for anorexia awareness. This is a very serious disease that is not to be taken lightly. If you know of someone going through this, PLEASE take a stand and help them out! Anorexia WILL kill you! There are ways to get help. This video highlights everything Pro-Anorexia websites tell you to do to stay thin! It saddens my heart to watch this video and to actually think that there are women and even men out there doing these things. Body image disorders like anorexia ARE mental illness’s. You are beautiful no matter what shape or size!! -Nicole ❤

 

Anorexia TV commercial below: I wanted to follow the above video that stated all of the pro-anorexia website words with this anorexia clip from a commercial. I found this clip to be more of a positive inspiration for anyone who is suffering from anorexia or even bulimic. They can go hand in hand together. I have witnessed this disease/disorder from friends throughout my entire life. It is scary! It is dangerous! And it will kill you!! Please seek help and don’t be afraid of judgment. We ALL are struggling with something. Don’t be afraid to make the change 🙂 -Nicole ❤

Mental Health Awareness Ad “We ALL Have Problems”

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Racing thoughts anyone?
I really liked this clip! I discovered it this evening while researching a few things. I hope it brights light to someones situation. Dealing with any kind of mental health problem is difficult and especially at first! Don’t give up. There is ALWAYS someone to talk to!! -Nicole ❤

Bi-polar Disorder

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This video is a short informational clip on the scientific parts of bi-polar disorder. I found the visuals they used to explain each point helped make it understandable to any age group. Although the video is only 2 minutes, it is definitely worth watching. I say the more informative you are about your diagnosis, the better your life can be : ) Trust me, ignoring it like I did for so long, will only worsen your illness and symptoms causing life set backs.

-Nicole ❤